on leaving and being left behind

this is it! we finally heard from janice that her flight bound to dubai will be on october 19th. she sent us a short and sad message. i suddenly felt a jolt of thunder on my chest. this is it,this is goodbye...for now.

the message said that she'll miss us and that she's thankful for everything we've done for her. in retrospect, every "leaving" that i've encountered in my life consists of a series of "thank yous" and the assurance that something or someone will be sorely missed. leaving -- be it physically, "spiritually," temporarily or permanently entails a certain kind of pain that's being inflicted in a person, be it the one leaving or the one being left behind.

a person leaving something or someone hurts just as half as the one being left behind. the dumpee will always hurt more than the dumper. it will be a great lie to say otherwise. the one who left has probably thought of all the possible logical reasons that will persuade the one he's leaving that it's the right thing to do, that he will be happier if he goes this way,and that he's doing this for his own well-being. no matter how hard or how devastating things can be,the one left behind will always have to make do with these reasons. most of the time, if not always, he will have to give in to the persuasion though he may not understand. the least thing one could do is have faith in the person that his happiness can be found elsewhere,as well as success,growth and that peculiar feeling that will make him say "i'm home."

well,i think we all should not be afraid of change. everyone,at some point in our lives,will have to move to another "place." we have to always be resilient to change, kailangan natin mabuhay kahit saan man tayo itapon. i believe it's human nature -- we grow, we move on to experience better things in life. we just have to be "accepting." after all,bilog ang mundo. lahat tayo at some point aalis,and for sure lahat tayo iniwanan. but i'm sure we will arrive at something good. yeah,i can't wait! ;-)